About the book: 2011 / Why is it that so often our self-image and the way other people perceive us do not coincide with some of our actions? Why do ordinary people gamble, drink to excess, waste other people's money, visit pornographic Internet sites, cheat on their spouses, laugh at the failures of others, and behave destructively at work and in everyday life? Exploring the shadow sides of our lives is very useful for personal growth, as it helps to overcome internal gaps and contradictions, and also helps to discover those internal forces that work against us and understand why this happens. In this book, James Hollis offers his help in making our behavior more intelligent and shows ways to reach a new level of awareness of our decisions and actions.